Breakups are never easy. The pain of losing someone who was once the love of your life can often feel unbearable. Fortunately, there are strategies for getting over a past heartbreak that will allow you to grieve and heal faster. Follow these steps below to patch your broken heart and move on in a healthy and positive way.
Avoid Contact With Your Ex
It can be incredibly difficult to get over your feelings if you continue to stay in contact with your ex. It’s best to avoid any type of communication, whether it be through text, direct conversations, or on social. Giving yourself a clear cut from your ex will allow you to detach from them more easily and help you get used to not having them around on a daily basis.
Don’t Second Guess Your Feelings
You are likely to experience all different kinds of emotions during the grieving process. It’s not uncommon for you to start to second guess your feelings as you attempt to process your relationship. Positive memories can flood your mind and make you feel guilty and alone, but it’s important to focus on why the relationship ended. It’s completely normal to love your ex still, but you need to trust yourself and remember what intentions led you there to begin with.
Let it Out
Holding in your emotions and convincing yourself that you’re okay can only be more damaging. Instead, let yourself cry, grieve, and hurt as you need to. Just don’t let it go on too long — obsessing over situations and letting anger take center stage won’t do any good in the long run. Once you’ve had a good cry, turn any intense energy into positive activities — like working out, joining a sports team, taking new lessons — anything that will allow you to redirect your energy and start something new for yourself.
Reach Out to Friends and Family
After a heartbreak, turning to an emotional support team can be very beneficial. Often times we lose touch with those we love when we’re in a serious relationship. Now’s the time to reach out to those who care about you. Having the support and company of friends and family can greatly improve your mood and take your mind off of things.
Talk to a Counsellor
While it’s good to talk things over and vent to your family and friends, you don’t want to become a burden on your support group if you’re really struggling. There are also some things you just can’t say to your friends and family that you can with a counsellor. Talking to an unbiased and trained professional can make a world of difference in your healing process.
At Vaughan Relationship Centre, we are here to listen and provide support when you need it. Our trained counsellors understand what you’re going through and can lend the helping hand you need to begin the healing process. You don’t have to hurt alone, come talk of our counsellors today and we’ll help set you on the path for getting over a past heartbreak in a healthy way.